You found this because someone you love died by suicide.
You don't need to be ready. Just be here.
hurts; is a free app for people living with grief after suicide — not general grief, not stages, but this grief specifically. It's a place to go when the weight of it hits: 2am, a Thursday afternoon, the car park before work.
Not therapy. Not a programme. Nothing to complete.
I lost my son Connor to suicide in 2024. I couldn't find what I needed, so I built hurts;. I'm sorry you're here but I hope this helps.
— Paul · Why hurts; exists
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Five longer articles on the main shapes this grief takes.
Guilt after suicide loss The specific shape of guilt after losing someone to suicide — the replay loop, the lies it tells, and what helps when it won’t let go. The first year after a suicide loss A rough map — the early days, the firsts, the anniversary, and why year two is sometimes harder than year one. The people around you Who steps closer, who disappears, and the conversations you’ll have to keep having. Your body and mind after a suicide loss The sleep, the fog, the physical toll, and when to see a doctor. Who you are now, after a suicide loss The identity that shatters, and the slow work of figuring out who you’ve become.